Relationship Work

Constructive Conflict Resolution

Although you may try to avoid conflict, disagreements are part of everyday life. Whether at home, in the office, or even on vacation, conflicts are bound to arise. Instead of trying to avoid the inevitable, I teach deliberate strategies that can help you learn and grow from conflict.
As opposed to thinking in terms of “you” and “me”, my Relationship Work sessions are focused on the “us” that you and your significant other together created in the first place. Using Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching (ORSC™) principles, I reorient your focus to the Third Entity™, or in other words, your relationship. Throughout the process, we’ll discover new possibilities, together.

Couples Coaching

Protecting Your Relationship from the Four Horsemen

Unhappy couple, sitting on a bed, looking away from one another and appearing upset, like a conversation just went south.

The Four Horsemen

Coined by Dr. John Gottman, a world-renowned relationship and marriage researcher and professor, The Four Horsemen is a phrase that symbolizes the most destructive relationship behaviors: criticism/blame, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. In most instances of divorce or separation, one or more of these negative behaviors are present at toxic levels.

Couples Coaching

Protecting Your Relationship from the Four Horsemen

Unhappy couple, sitting on a bed, looking away from one another and appearing upset, like a conversation just went south.

The Four Horsemen

Coined by Dr. John Gottman, a world-renowned relationship and marriage researcher and professor, The Four Horsemen is a phrase that symbolizes the most destructive relationship behaviors: criticism/blame, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. In most instances of divorce or separation, one or more of these negative behaviors are present at toxic levels.

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When we began working with Tony, my former wife and I were incapable of having a civil conversation. It’s taken some time for sure . . . now we are more able to resolve our disagreements ourselves. Tony’s patience and constant modeling of good behavior certainly paved the way for us. We’re so pleased to have learned about non-violent communication from him..”
Peter M.

Mending Strained Relationships

Even the most steadfast relationships experience ups and downs. When conflicts arise, human nature tells us to protect ourselves, neglecting the relationship in the process. Consequently, we place undue strain on the people and relationships that matter most. My goal isn’t to remove the low points from your relationship. They truly are inevitable. Instead, my objective is to reorient your perception regarding conflict while teaching you how to respond instead of react.

Throughout the process, you will learn actionable strategies to keep The Four Horsemen from contributing to the deterioration of your relationship. Will they surface from time to time? Yes. The key, however, is taking mitigating actions when they do appear and using each occurrence as an opportunity to increase your awareness. As you grow a deeper and more holistic understanding of your thoughts, tendencies, and actions, you will be in a better position to repair old issues while facilitating a brighter and more fulfilling future for you and your partner.

Mending Strained Relationships

Even the most steadfast relationships experience ups and downs. When conflicts arise, human nature tells us to protect ourselves, neglecting the relationship in the process. Consequently, we place undue strain on the people and relationships that matter most. My goal isn’t to remove the low points from your relationship. They truly are inevitable. Instead, my objective is to reorient your perception regarding conflict while teaching you how to respond instead of react.

Throughout the process, you will learn actionable strategies to keep The Four Horsemen from contributing to the deterioration of your relationship. Will they surface from time to time? Yes. The key, however, is taking mitigating actions when they do appear and using each occurrence as an opportunity to increase your awareness. As you grow a deeper and more holistic understanding of your thoughts, tendencies, and actions, you will be in a better position to repair old issues while facilitating a brighter and more fulfilling future for you and your partner.

Whether you’d like to learn more about my Relationship Work services or are interested in getting started, I invite you to get in touch with me today.