So this is the time of year when many folks choose to make “new years resolutions”. What I and many of my clients generally find more helpful is to sit quietly and look…back at the year that just passed and ahead to the new one. Then, without judgment, choose something that would benefit from an adjustment. It might be a behavior, a perspective, or perhaps an attitude. Once you have decided create a small step that will bring you closer to creating the change that you want and commit to taking that step regularly. Most importantly, be gentle with yourself; know that change does not come quickly. And if you would like the support of a professional coach please consider giving me a call. I am glad to be of service.
This short poem below is one that helps reminds me about the impact of my motivation. The last stanza is most powerful. May it serve you in a similar helpful way.
A fixer has the illusion of being causal
a server knows s/he is being used in the service of something greater,
We fix something specific.
We serve always something: Wholeness and the mystery of life.
Fixing and helping are the work of the ego. Serving is the work of the soul.
When you help, you see life as weak. When you fix you see life as broken When you serve you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may cure. Service heals.
When I help, I feel satisfaction. When I serve, I feel gratitude.
Fixing is a form of judgment. Serving is a form of connection.